Linda
Stewart Ball/ Dallas Morning News
When Rachel and Richard Averett are out with their three boys, strangers
often smile and say: "Oh, you need a little girl."
They're not being cruel. They just don't know.
A year ago Saturday, the Averetts' only daughter, Hallie, died after
having
the stomach flu. She was 10 months old.
Some say the Lord works in mysterious ways. The Averetts, who are
people of
faith, might believe that more strongly than most.
Last year, their daughter provided a gift to another family: her
heart. The
families, who live hundreds of miles apart, did not realize at the
time that
they were connected in more ways than one.
Hallie has a twin brother named Micah. The night she died, Micah
was also
ill, and he could not be consoled.
Once he returned to health, Micah would crawl through his Plano
home looking
for his sister.
"That hurt almost as much as losing her," said Mr. Averett,
29, a software
architect. "Even though they were fraternal, they were always
connected."
Hallie and Micah were born Feb. 3, 2003. Hallie was bigger, stronger
and
spunkier. Whenever Micah would get a bottle, Hallie would put hers
down,
crawl over to her brother, grab his bottle and drink it, too.
He'd cry. Then Hallie, who had curly brownish-blond hair, would
kiss him on
his bald head, and all was forgiven.
"There was just something special about Hallie," Mr. Averett
said.
Hallie was always in charge, his wife said proudly.
"That's why I think she kept herself alive for so long. She
was a very
determined little girl," said Ms. Averett, 30, a homemaker.
Hallie's
heart
The stomach virus made its way through the Averett family last December.
Everyone was sick except for Ms. Averett. On Dec. 16, she went to
get
medicine while her husband watched the kids. Hallie was napping.
When Ms. Averett returned and checked on their daughter, she found
her in
her crib making a strange noise; laboring to breathe. Hallie was
gray. Her
eyes rolled back.
Ms. Averett called an ambulance. Doctors worked to save Hallie,
but 36 hours
later, the Averetts' baby girl was gone.
Donating an organ was the last thing on their minds. But when they
were
asked to consider it, they agreed.
"At first it was a matter of, we wanted to do it to help another
family,"
Mr. Averett said. "This could help someone else not have to
go through this.
"Then it became a solace to us to know that a part of her lived
on. That her
passing wasn't completely in vain."
Last Dec. 19th, Hallie's heart was transplanted into a baby boy
who lives in
Kentucky. Months later the Averetts learned his name: Micah.
They were stunned. What were the odds of that happening?
Ms. Averett looked the name up on the Social Security Web site and
said she
found only 660 boys named Micah in 2003.
"That's not an accident," she said. "It's very unusual."
Both families are strong Christians. The Averetts are United Church
of God
members while the Wagers are Independent Baptists. They chose the
name Micah
from the Bible.
Micah's moment
Micah Gabriel Wagers is a happy and loving toddler, with blond hair
and
grayish-blue eyes. He's content playing baby dolls with his sister
or Batman
with his brothers.
But it's a wonder that Micah – the youngest of Malachi and
Lara Wagers' five
children – is here at all.
He was born with a heart defect on Sept. 21, 2002. Multiple surgeries
failed
to repair his condition. In October 2003, doctors told the Wagerses
their
son would die without a new heart.
"He was a year old and could hardly sit up," said Mr.
Wagers, 30, a
maintenance and repairman. "We didn't know how sick he was
until after he
got the new heart, and we were like 'Whoa, this is the baby he should
have
been.' "
Although he's small for his age, his parents say Micah is active
and racing
to catch up. He can walk now and knows a handful of words.
"He is full of life," Ms. Wagers said. "A totally
different kid than what he
was before."
The greatest gift
About three months after Hallie died, the Averetts, who received
contact
information from the Southwest Transplant Alliance, wrote to the
Wagerses.
"When we got the first letter from them telling us about the
name, telling
us about their Micah, we had chills down our spines for days,"
Mr. Wagers
said. "I think the Lord has got something definitely in store
for that."
Ms. Wagers, 29, said it took her a while to write back to the Averetts.
She
wasn't sure what to say.
"It's the greatest gift," Ms. Wagers said of Hallie's
heart. "I really can't
even put it into words how unselfish and what a great thing that
they could
do that."
Although they haven't yet met, the Wagers and Aevetts say they hope
to some day.
Saturday morning the Averetts marked the one-year anniversary of
Hallie's
death by placing flowers on her grave.
On Sunday in Verona, Ky., the Wagers celebrated Micah's life. They
marked
the first anniversary of his heart transplant with a party in their
home.
"He's doing excellent," Mr. Wagers said. "But I hate
to even say it because
I'm scared."
The Averetts understand the fear. Losing Hallie has changed them
all.
"It just makes you realize how fragile life is," Ms. Averett
said.
"We're trying to keep living," she said. "That's
what Hallie would want us
to do."
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